People to Avoid at Concerts: Loud Talkers

"The audience reaction will necessarily be a part of your experience.  That's the unsecret secret of the arts: The audience is a part of the whole deal.  If they suck, the show can suck." -- Ken Bloom & Josh Wellman, "Attending and Enjoying Concerts: A Student Guide"

In the past few years, I've noticed an epidemic at concerts, and many friends I've spoken with confirm it: people are talking too loudly and it's interrupting our enjoyment of the show.

Loud Talkers (LTs) are a special brand of annoying because they are completely oblivious to the fact that, uh, there are other people around them who can hear them.  To be clear, I'm not talking about people who are enthusiastic with their cheering, or occasionally shout out a song request.  I'm talking about the people who spend the entire evening shouting at their friends about anything EXCEPT the show - the cute gal/guy nearby, the latest sportsball game they saw, how totally wasted they are, etc. 

Your experience does not need to be ruined by LTs.  You can take action and help yourself and others around you enjoy the show.

Why do LTs behave this way?

I believe that there are a few reasons why people talk loudly at shows, and why it's gotten more prevalent in recent years.  These are not excuses, just explanations.

1) They're intoxicated.  Whether drunk or high, your behavior can become obnoxious, and you probably don't realize it.  This is a pretty obvious reason, and I'll cover the whole alcohol at concerts thing in a future post.

2) They don't know the song being played.  Yes, of course they should be open-minded enough to listen to something unfamiliar, but sadly, their small brains just cannot handle something they don't already know.  I was at a concert recently (David Gray - amazing!) and some idiot yelled "Play something we know!" after David played a bunch of songs from his new album.  Guess what?  Every single song you've ever heard was new at one time.  And guess what else?  Other people MAY have heard the song and are actually enjoying it!  So enjoy this moment or STFU.

3) Social media creates an quasi-anonymous forum for you to say whatever you want, without repercussion.  I don't have proof of this, but I really think that this is why LTs have gotten worse.  There have always been hecklers, but I think that many LTs think they can say whatever they want, and have forgotten that they are, in fact, among other people and that being loud is not cool.

4) They're entitled assholes.  Along with the social media thing, some LTs think that, since they paid a lot of money for their ticket, so they can behave however they want.  Well guess what, so did I.  And I didn't pay that much money to listen to you talk to your friends all night about something completely unrelated to what you're seeing.  Do you really want to spend an entire day's pay or more and not remember the awesomeness that is happening around you?

Dealing with LTs

So, how do you handle LTs?  Your situation will vary, and I encourage you to use your instincts depending on the situation.  The most important thing is to not be afraid.  Other people are likely pretty annoyed but don't want to cause a scene by saying anything.  When you speak up, it will empower others.

1) The first thing you should do assess whether you think the person will respond positively to your politely letting them know that they are too loud.  In most situations, the person has no idea that they're infringing on your good time, so it is best to politely let them know.  Tell them some variation of, "Could you please speak more softly?  I'm having trouble hearing the band."  Or, "Would you mind keeping it down?  Thanks."  In most situations, they will say "I am so sorry" and shut up or move.

2) If they yell at you or are rude, you can decide whether you want to escalate.  Tell them that you're all just trying to enjoy the show, and to be cool.  You can tell them that you didn't spend all this money to listen to them talk.  Enlist the help of others around you if necessary.  As I mentioned, most people just don't want to cause problems with the obnoxious person, but if you can outnumber them, you'll be much more successful in getting them to stop.

3) If the situation worsens and they become hostile, do not mess around with them.  Find an usher or security guard and let them know what's happening.  If someone is so obnoxious that they can't even shut the hell up when asked politely, they could become a bigger issue and security can and should absolutely step in at that point.

4) If YOU are the problem, you're probably not reading this anyway, but please just stop.  For real.  Stay home and listen to that one song you know and leave us alone.

If you have any suggestions for dealing with Loud Talkers, post a comment!  I'd love to hear from you!

Tickets with Friends - How to get to the show without hurting anyone's feelings or getting screwed

Your concert experience starts with getting tickets.  If you're like me, you have quite a bit of experience buying tickets, and usually, your friends know it.  Sometimes, when a band or performer you mutually like comes to town, they'll ask you to get tickets for them.  Or you might offer, thinking that it'll be a fun time for all.  There's nothing wrong with being "the one who always buys tickets," but if you have flaky friends who bail on you without paying, an event that's supposed to be fun can easily turn into a massive pain in the ass.

Here are a few tips to make sure you don't get screwed or lose your friends.  Some of these might sound obvious, or even a little harsh, but in the excitement of the ticket-buying frenzy, you can easily throw common sense out the window.  Even the best of friends can turn on each other when someone feels burdened, so a little pre-planning and communication goes a long way.

1) Check the date.  Make sure everyone who wants to go can go.  Don't buy tickets for anyone who has not checked their calendars beforehand.

2) Be honest about yours and your friends' finances:  Begin by checking ticket prices for the show, and BEFORE TICKETS GO ON SALE, discuss what price categories you and your friends are all willing to buy.  When you've determined that, make sure that you have the funds to pay for however many tickets you're getting.  If necessary, call or text them as you're buying the tickets to make sure you're on the same page.

3) Make a re-payment deadline: In many situations, I insist that the people I'm buying tickets for pay me within a couple of days of the purchase before I even buy ticket.  This helps weed out the flakes.  If they can't agree to this simple request before you buy tickets, or say "Oh I'll get you the money," they are probably going to bail on you.  And these people are not your friends.  If they don't pay you by the specified deadline, resell the tickets on a fan ticket exchange or through another legitimate venue.  Don't mess around with their nonsense.

4) After they've paid, send the tickets to your friends.  This serves two functions.  First, if they end up not being able to go, THEY are responsible for selling the tickets.  You can offer to help with selling them, but you're not stuck. Second, especially if you're arriving at the show separately, this prevents you from having to wait until your friends get there to enter the venue.

5) When all else fails, go by yourself.  I've made the huge mistake - before I became comfortable going to shows by myself - of buying a pair of tickets, thinking that I'd surely find someone to go with me.  I was wrong.  Go to the show by yourself.  Trust me on this.  You might find a single seat in a really great spot, and you'll probably meet some interesting people.  More advice on going to shows alone will come in a future post...

Bonus tip: If you can't afford to buy tickets for friends, or don't want to go to the show, offer them some pointers on getting good tickets.  They can benefit from your expertise, and really, you're making the world a better place by helping them have a great time.

Happy buying!

Welcome to The GA Section!

Welcome to The GA Section!

I am thrilled to be starting this blog and hope concertgoers and music lovers enjoy it and find it useful.  I decided to write it after many conversations with friends about the joys and frustrations of going to concerts.  We prefer mostly to rock, pop, hip hop, and related genre music, although I'm sure many of the same principles apply if you're going to the symphony.

There are plenty of other blogs, articles, and "definitive guides" out there related to concerts, but my intention is to create something more comprehensive.  I won't be listing all of the shows I've been to (a lot), or writing detailed reviews (unless it gets me a press pass), but I will share my experiences.  All views presented are mine unless otherwise noted. 

So what does "GA" mean?  "GA" stands for General Admission - the section of a concert venue without assigned seats; also known as "the pit," but in some small venues, it can be entirely GA.  I have spent many days and nights camped out in GA lines, hoping to get that amazing spot on the front rail.  But this blog is for everyone, whether you're sweating it out up front, chillin' at the soundboard, or up in the nosebleed section.

Here's a little taste of some of the things I'll be writing about:

• Tickets - how to buy, how to sell extras, how to not get stuck being the one who always gets the tickets
• Who to avoid at shows (aka, Don't Be That Guy): concerts are a microcosm of humanity, and I'll call out the drunks and disorderlies and give you tips on how to deal with them
• Surviving the GA experience: what to bring with you (and what not to bring), what to wear, and how to behave (because it needs to said)
• Concert Boot Camp: concert prep exercise tips for all ability levels from trained fitness professionals (because we're not getting any younger)
• Security: how much it needs to be improved, and how venues can get it right
• Going to concerts alone: it really can be fun!
• "Let Me Break It Down For You": a special series where I'll provide amateur psychoanalysis of bad concert behavior - with research citations!

I hope you love this blog as much as I've loved putting it together.  If you have any post ideas please feel free to contact me at thegasection@gmail.com.  My ultimate goal is making the concertgoing experience better in every way, so you and your crew have the most incredible time of your lives.  Because isn't that the point?